The thing about anger is…it takes a lot of energy to sustain it. After I’m finished with being angry and frustrated, I feel really tired. It feels like there’s a hole left behind after the anger is gone. An emptiness. Feelings of anger are replaced with feelings of defeat. Did all the being angry really accomplish anything? Why do I get angry? Is it a learned behavior? Is it a survival tactic?<\/p>\n
Ok, I’m totally rambling here. What brought these thoughts on? Something happened today that made me really angry. I generally get frustrated and at times really angry if I perceive that someone is not listening to me. This most often happens with my kids but it can happen with other people, too. This is why I got angry today, but it was also the result of a bunch of little frustrations all building up to the ‘last straw’.<\/p>\n
I’m sitting here thinking about how I felt at the time and also at how I carried that anger with me for a while afterwards. I do believe I harbour resentment in my heart. Sometimes I can be angry about something, calmed down for a couple of hours or a day and then I start telling someone about it and all of a sudden, I’m just as angry as when it first happened. I’m wondering why I’m like this.<\/p>\n
Some people cry almost every day. I hardly ever cry. But I get frustrated and angry. Is this just another way of dealing with stress?<\/p>\n
What is anger anyways? It’s an emotion. Anger, just like any emotion, is neutral. It’s what we do with our anger that makes it good or bad. What do I do with my anger? Complain about the circumstance or people that were the source of my anger; harbour resentment. Ultimately, does this bring any satisfaction? Initially, perhaps, but not in the long run. What would be a better thing to do with my anger? I don’t know. This is the way I’ve handled my anger for a long time. Maybe I need to find different, better outlets for my anger, but I don’t know what they would be. Maybe it would just be doing things to relax, rather than fueling the flames by complaining to people. I don’t know the answers but recognize that I could use some change in this area of my life.<\/p>\n
As I’m writing this post, I’m also seeing a lot of my oldest son in this, although in his case, its more of an extreme. He, too, gets angry about things. I think most of the time he gets angry its because of a perceived injustice or feeling out of control in relation to his environment. He also harbours resentment in his heart and can get angry about an incident that happened a long time ago. We do have our similarities, but I never really saw it in the area of anger.<\/p>\n
Hmmm…. food for thought.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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