A few friends have been asking me how my pregnancy has been going. It’s going fine. Besides being extremely hungry and tired for the first month or so, I’ve been feeling really good. I have my energy back (although when I stay up too late, I pay for it the next day). Sometimes, my hips and back get sore, but other than that, everything’s going great.Â
I’m over halfway done now, about 21-22 weeks along. My doctor (and the ultra-sound) still put my due date at about November 11, but I think I’m going to be later than that (I was overdue and induced for my other two pregnancies). My husband thinks I’m too sure of myself about that one – we’ve even got a wager going – if I haven’t had the baby 3 days after my due date, I win! Although, it would be quite a novel thing to actually go into labour ‘naturally’. We’ll have to wait and see what happens.
I have a question – why do some people insist on telling you what’s happening in your own body and will even argue with you when you tell them you know the answer and its not what they’re suggesting? For example, at the beginning, I was really, really tired. People kept trying to tell me it was because of my two sons. But it had nothing to do with them. It’s just that the baby was sapping all my energy at that time. My two boys are 10 and 6, and fairly self-sufficient. I also have a very supportive husband who does lots with helping out in our family. I could have used that excuse when I was a single parent, but it simply wasn’t the case now. And yet people wouldn’t believe me when I told them that.
 Here’s another example: I’ve been feeling really good. Somedays, I stay up too late on the computer or whatever and am tired the next day. This is probably what would happen to just about anyone. But all of a sudden, people are convinced its because of my pregnancy.
 I just don’t get it. You’re pregnant and suddenly everyone’s an expert on a body other than their own.
lol, I totally hear you. I’ve found too that everyone turns expert overnight when there’s a pregnant woman in the room, in my case, even those who’ve never been pregnant! But I know what you mean, I have a problem with my SI joint, and my hips shifting, that causes a lot of lower back pain. People just assume that it’s from the weight of the baby, and that it’s just ‘regular’ pregnancy back pain, and of course everyone understnads and went through the same thing. But it’s not the weight of the baby at all, because the pain started as soon as I got pregnant, back when baby was a ball of cells and the size of a pea. I’ve talked to doctors galore, and gotten all the answers I need to get through this, I’ve found out the cause, the results, the problem, and the solution (although I can’t excersize the solution until after baby is out of me), yet people still seem to think that they need to share what they know, even if it’s way off base. Funny……when you think about it, but definately annoying sometimes.
Glad to hear you pregnancy is going well, and that you’ve got your energy back. I remember being so flipping tired in the first two months. And I felt so bad because I knew I wasn’t even doing anything. Hubby would come home to me laying around saying I was so tired, and he’d ask what I did all day. I’d say nothing and feel like a freak. But yeah, was glad to get that energy back too. That’s so cool that you’re half way! Maybe this new man will change the history of later babies, and give you a new experience of natural labor?
Hey girlie, totally understand. Even though I am no longer pregnant, I use to get the doctor Phil advise all the time. And especially from people who had no clue or lack of understanding. But I guess like other things people have an opion. Just now that people who are giving advise, mean well. (Least to say it is not annoying, lol) Glad all is well, and I want that coffee that we planned a million years ago, well a couple of months ago. Take care God bless!
Sweet. as in “most wonderful!”
I was thinking just the other day, hmm, the last time I was so hot was at LT and Carol’s wedding.
Hard to believe it was only a year ago.
Sounds like you are doing well. Lauralea and I are happy for you five.
As for the free diagnosis when you are pregnant, the other time I’ve noticed people being just really weird, is when I am helping someone who is going through palliative care. Everybody has a sister who had the same thing and ate whatever and was healed.
Blah blah blah.
Sounds like things are good Carol.
Blessings.
Let me warn you, it doesn’t stop at the end of pregnancy…everyone becomes an expert and commentor on nursing and family life. My ‘favorite’ comment, and the one I hear incessantly from people who find out I have six children is……….insert drumroll….”Wow, you must be busy.”
Gee, do ya think? Of course, I’m busy. So is pretty much every other person on the face of the planet!!!! Especially if that person happens to be attached to a newborn at the breast….be prepared my friend!! Just wait til your growing belly turns into everyone’s good luck charm……..
I had my own private giggle after I had Elizabeth and she was in neo-natal, everyone came to see her, and they couldn’t so they had to see me, and talk to me, and visit with me….
haha!! that would annoy me SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOo much. i can’t wait for all of the annoying advice.
can’t believe you guys have been married a year already. so happy for you both.