Suffering and knowing God

Philippians 3:10 – “I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death,”

Sometimes, it is in suffering that we can better understand God’s heart. How can we understand His heartache if we do not go through heartache ourselves? When we are in those moments of emotional agony, do we catch a glimpse of the agony of the Father as He looks on this fallen world? Is that what Paul means when he talks about ‘the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings’? Can we identify more closely with Jesus having gone through painful experiences? Is that the point of it all?