I saw my doctor this evening and things have not progressed since this morning. I’m still 3 cm dilated. And now my contractions have stopped. I am completely discouraged. All these friends and relatives are anxiously awaiting this newborn (for some its the first biological grandchild) and my body doesn’t seem to want to work. I feel frustrated and depressed. And I feel pressure to hurry up and have this thing – I know people mean well, but it’s not making me feel very good at this point. I can’t do anything about what’s going on and I, too, would like to have this baby hurry up and be born.
I had dreams of going into labour naturally. I would start having contractions and they would gradually and steadily progress until it was time to go to the hospital and then a few hours later, I would be holding a baby in my arms. But that’s not how its happening. I almost wonder if it was better not having any contractions and then being induced. Sure I had to stay in the hospital the whole time and the whole process was more intense, but at least I could tell people we’re going in to be induced on this day and with my kids it was 8-12 hours later, we had a baby. None of this dragging it out to eternity with all these people anxiously waiting to hear the baby has been born (and ending up waiting for days).
I know I’m pregnant and that means emotional and irrational, so things aren’t probably as bad as they seem, but its how I’m feeling at this moment in time.
Hey Lady,
I think it is fantastic that you have had all this time to recover from your very busy summer and fall, moving and unpacking before your little one decides it is time to come out. Don’t worry about the anxious people. Tell them if they really want this baby to come that they dhould fast and pray then maybe God will set things in motion. As far as I am concerned you are right on time. Besides now you won the bet with the man. You are right where you are suppose to be. I have never had a baby but unless it is hugely massive or in distress I say wait it out. God seen bazillions of babies through before so I think he has it well in had. Love you lots.
Hey, Carol. Just writing to let you know I’m praying for you. All in God’s time . . . all in baby’s time.
Besides now you won the bet with the man.
Ahem! I think there might be a bit of misunderstanding here. If the baby comes out on or before Nov 17th I still win. I’ve got two days left!
Sincerely
“the man”
It’s true. The bet was if the baby was born on or before the third day after my due date, my hubby wins the bet. 11:59pm on November 17 is the deadline. I was pretty confident that I would be a week late and have to be induced because my first two kids went that way. My husband’s arguement was that I couldn’t establish a pattern on two instances. I was right about one thing, though. I was not early.
Now Leighton you just may have to give Carol that day at the SPA even if baby comes early just because shes had to go through all this stress the past few days…..
Just my thoughts of course.
Holly
I’m still hoping for the 20th. lol I love you guys and will be here whether the baby is born today or whenever. Yes, we’re anxious about you having the baby, but what we want most is for you to not be stressed out about things. Love you lots. 🙂
I know there is nothing anyone can say at this point that will make you feel any better, any more patient, or any less pregnant….
I know in my last few days it didn’t matter what anyone said, it was always the wrong thing to say. I got annoyed with all the phone calls from family asking, got a baby yet? Duh…if there was a baby believe me everyone would know cuz I’d be shouting it from the rooftops!
I’ve never been overdue, so I have no idea what that would be like. I can’t imagine counting down the days to the due date, only to have to keep counting….and counting.
I hope and pray that you sense God’s presence in this time, as it’s the only thing that will carry you through. May He be your refuge.
(by the way, that idea that Holly put out there about the SPA….I second that. For every woman who’s body goes through all that it has to go through to carry and birth a human life, it should almost be mandatory. But that’s just my humble opinion)
Also looking forward to meeting the new Tebay! But, hey, no pressure 😉
glad you came over this evening. hope we gave you something else to think about even if it was for just a few hours. maybe you should save having the baby until saturday night just to see how committed LT REALLY is…the baby or BSG? hmmmm 😉
the spa deal sounds really good…sign me up
Awwww Carol… I feel bad for you. That feeling of “This baby is never going to come out of me” sucks, and it must suck even more when you are having days of contractions. I started to feel like it was all some kind of sick joke and I was going to be pregnant forever, and it didn’t matter how many times people told me otherwise (or I lectured myself) I still was convinced that Ben would never come. I think that’s part of the reason I loved Sam’s planned c-section. I feel for you and I’m praying for you.
i hear you girl. I try to look at the pros to being induced. having a date…knowing your coming home with a baby….those are great pros. But i can relate to wanting to go into your own labor. it’s like a dream….that every time i have a baby, god brings me to a place (usually after i’m totally frustrated, stressed and can’t stop thinking about it) that i have to lay it down. God will take care of exactly how this baby will come and when.
I pray you have the grace to lay down the birth.
I rememeber Faith was in breech. that would mean C section!!! as if I wanted that again!!! That was the toughest one to lay down. but she turned, still needed induction…but it was a beautiful birth and labor and it was just for me!!!
love you lots and it’s going to be GREAT